Dean Cortez is back. In this column I'll answer a question one of my readers had about how to get a very hot younger woman back to his place... and I decided to reveal a very simple but extremely effective strategy that I've been using recently.
Special tactics must be used, and special considerations made, when the situation involves an older man and younger woman. In order to pull off an older man-younger woman relationship, you've got to understand -- and know how to counter -- her suspicions, anxieties, and insecurities. Even more importantly, you've got to know the advantages that you possess as an older guy -- and how to capitalize on them.
Anyway, on to the letter...
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Hi Dean,
I'm a 39-year-old advertising executive and the other day, I met a girl at my gym who is a KNOCKOUT.
25 years old, Brazilian, and so damn gorgeous that every guy in the gym stopped and stared
when she got on the Stairmaster!
I was lucky enough to be on the Stairmaster next to her, and I used some of the techniques
in your "Dating Younger Women" program to start a cool conversation with her.
I "closed" the conversation by getting her phone number and telling her I was going to check out this new Brazilian restaurant on Friday night. I mentioned the great food and music, told her I knew she would love it, and invited her to come along. (Your book taught me how to get a girls phone number the correct way, and ask her out, instead of fumbling and getting turned down.)
So, we are set to go out on Friday night...
But Dean, my brother, this is no ordinary date.
This is the girl of Malaysian Hair my DREAMS. I've always had a thing for hot, curvy Brazilian women with incredible bodies and long, silky black hair...
Honestly, is there a guy who DOESN'T? Lol...
Anyway, I need some Advanced Tactics here so that I make sure Indian Hair this date is a success.
I don't want a hug and a handshake at the end of the night. I want to take this girl home Brazilian Hair and
"seal the deal."
Can you hook me up with a Tactic that is guaranteed to score a home run?
- Rich, New York City
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Dean Cortez is back. I've got a move for this situation that I developed recently, and it's KILLER.
The first thing you need to understand is, women (especially younger ones) have a FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN.
This is why it's so important to project that you are a safe, stable, trustworthy guy.
You can make this happen by dropping hints (or "planting seeds") during the conversation. You already know all about this if you've read my books.
Now in this situation...when your objective is to bring her back to your place tonight...and she's never been to your place before...it is perfectly normal for her to feel a bit of reluctance.
This is because your home is UNKNOWN to her.
Her female radar "kicks in," and her mind comes up with reasons NOT to go there, such as...
- Maybe your house/apartment is filthy and unsanitary. (Women feel uncomfortable in that type of environment.)
- You might have some weirdo roommate who is going to creep her out.
- You might have a girlfriend or wife that you didn't tell her about -- and she might show up and start some drama!
- You might live REALLY far away. When she drives home later, she might have trouble finding the way back to her place.
Those are just some of the things she might be thinking. It doesn't matter if your residence has none of those issues. TELLING her that your place is clean, and close, and comfortable, isn't really going to assuage her concerns. She needs to experience it for herself.
The bottom line is this: you've got to eliminate her suspicions and fears so that it's easy for her to think, "sure, why not, your place sounds OK. Let's go there."
So how do you make her think this way?
You SHOW her your place, and let her become familiar with it, BEFORE you take her out on the date!
It's actually SUPER easy to do...
Here's how you should play it. When you call her and set up the date, tell her to MEET YOU outside of your place, so that you can ride in your car together and go to the date location.
(Bar, restaurant, coffee shop, whatever.)
Women ALWAYS agree to this. Because A), they are curious about where you live. They are nosy! They want to check out the exterior of your home/apartment/condo.
(Notice, you didn't say "come over and hang out at my place." You said, "meet me OUTSIDE my place so that we can ride to the restaurant together."
And B), they feel more comfortable riding in your car with you, especially if the date location is a place they are not familiar with. She'd probably rather have you handle the driving.
OK, now here is how to use this Tactic --
When her car pulls up to your place, go outside -- like you're ready to go on the date -- and then tell her you forgot to do something. You need to go back inside and send an email or make a phone call:
"Hey! How are you...oh my God, I just remembered, I need to send an email (or make a phone call) before we go. It's for my work. Come on in for a minute."
She will agree to this. Naturally, she is curious to see the INTERIOR of where you live.
So, bring her inside ...
Get her a glass of wine, or a bottle of water (never from the tap), and then go into the other room and pretend to send your email or make your phone call.
The idea is that you're letting her familiarize herself with your pad. This will no longer be an "unknown environment" to her.
While you spend 5 or 10 minutes in the other room, you are leaving her alone to CHECK OUT your pad.
And trust me, she WILL check it out. She'll snoop around a little, look at your pictures, maybe check inside your fridge...she'll look for any evidence of a girlfriend (or wife) you didn't mention...
And this means you MUST have a clean place. Your bathroom must be absolutely spotless. Seriously, your bathroom should be friggin' sterile! That's how clean it should be.
Why? Because she will probably want to use it. (Scented candles and plush bath towels will make the right impression.)
So, after 5 or 10 minutes, you finish up your "business" and you come back into the living room and rejoin her. Now the two of you get in your car and go on your date.
That all sounded very simple. However, what you just did made a very positive psychological impact on her.
Because, at the end of the date, when you suggest going back to your place -- to have a glass of wine, watch a movie, or whatever other strategy you use from my Dating Younger Women program -- she ALREADY KNOWS your environment.
She already KNOWS that your home is a comfortable place to go back to, and chill out.
It's clean and private, and she knows that you're a good host who makes her feel comfortable.
So you take her out for a nice time, you get her back to your place, and that is when the MAGIC happens ;)
I used that simple tactic last week with two different hot younger women -- a 23 year old, and a 27 year old.
Use it -- and enjoy. Check out the site YoungerDating.com to learn the secrets that over 25 top dating and seduction gurus use to flirt with younger women. An older man-younger women relationship is a lot more natural -- and easy to pull off -- than you think!
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez
YoungerDating.com
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